You have written three letters to someone you were angry with. You burned
all three letters, right? If not, stop reading this book, grab those letters
and burn them!
Earlier we have discussed that life takes place in the here and now, and
only in the here and now. At this very moment you are embracing ultimate
potentiality and holding the key to profound happiness. But if traumatic
experiences are keeping you from truly celebrating this moment, you need to
find ways to come to terms with the stored up feelings (conscious and
sub-conscious memories) regarding these events or people, and let go of the
influence that these experiences have on the present. Realize that these
experiences have or had tentacles reaching into the here and now. They are
still affecting your present functioning. You need to shake off or cut the
tentacles. Passionately wish, desire and expect that these specific
experiences will not negatively impact your present any longer. This is a lot
easier than you think, as long as you are willing to let go. The problem is
that most people consciously and subconsciously are clinging to their past
dramas and largely identify themselves with these dramas. It is your choice to
relive that specific drama for the rest of your life, or to process it and
move on. All our experiences are valuable to our growth, it is the basis of
our learning. By all means use your experiences, but do not allow them to
dictate all further activities and emotions. Accept the past as it was, and
forgive whomever wronged you and forgive yourself for all the mistakes you
made. But take your time. Do not try to forgive before you are ready to
forgive.
If you believe that you are ready to forgive, truly and unconditionally
forgive, do the following visualization exercise.
1. Do your relaxation and breathing exercise and fully relax.
2. Visualize that tentacles from the past are holding you down.
Feel how uncomfortable that is.
3. Now, realize that you have been holding on to these tentacles,
and one by one release the tentacles.
4. Enjoy your freedom.
5. Realize that you might feel a kind of emptiness. Fill it with
you yearning for a fulfilling life and profound happiness.
6. Visualize a light in front of you and reach out and link with
that light, a light symbolizing your heart’s desires. Confirm the link,
make it strong, give it texture, a color, and shape.
7. Make a mental picture of what just happened. And before
you open your eyes again, realize that you may want to do this exercise
again; whenever you feel that you start holding on to your past events
again. Your past will always remain your past; however, you determine
how much your past colors your life in the here and now. If it is really
difficult to let go of past dramas or traumatic experiences, please find a
good therapist.